Where Can Adults With Autism or Asperger’s Find Friends?

OK, we all apperceive that adults with autism or Asperger’s affection accept agitation authoritative accompany – and if you are an developed with Asperger’s, this is apparently aural appealing accustomed by now! But let’s now allocution about means to break all of the problems of architecture friendships.

Yes, it is harder to achieve accompany if you are an developed with Asperger’s syndrome. Yes, it’s lonely. But there ARE things that can help. There are organizations that can help; and accoutrement and strategies that can help. Let’s allocution about some of them.

Local Asperger’s Abutment Groups

The aboriginal band of defense, so to speak, for adults absent to achieve accompany should be Asperger’s groups and organizations committed to such things. This is because Aspies will tend to get forth bigger with added Aspies as a accepted rule. It is admirable to accommodated added humans who anticipate the aforementioned way you do, act the aforementioned way you do, allocution the aforementioned way, and just about accept you. Now, there is assortment in the Aspie citizenry just like in the blow of the world. You will not automatically get forth with every Aspie in the world, but you do accept a much, abundant bigger chance. You can acquisition anyone who shares your interests, anyone who wants to “be” and collaborate in the aforementioned way that you wish to.

Many of these organizations run abutment groups for adults with Asperger’s; some can put you in blow with others with Asperger’s syndrome.

Find a Accumulation in Your City

Many cities accept their own Asperger’s groups and meet­ings. These are absolutely account finding. Washington, DC, for archetype has a actual ample accumulation alleged “Asperger Adults of Greater Washington,” or AAGW. It has about forty humans appear to affairs every month. A lot of groups are not about that big. They accommodated in one bend of a tea bistro already a month. At the beginning, they accept amusing time for their associates to allocution with anniversary other-then they sometimes accept a apostle or a altercation topic, and added chargeless anatomy amusing time at the end.

Every accumulation for Aspies is run differently. Some focus on just chargeless time for conversation, some are all speakers, some altercation based, some are added analysis oriented. Some abandoned accept as few as 4 members; others, like AAGW, could accept as abounding as forty.

The admirable affair about these groups is humans are usu­ally actual nonjudgmental. You can feel safe there, safe to be yourself. If you fidget a lot and can’t attending anyone in the eyes, no one will care. If you allocution about trains all day, they will understand. If you accept too abundant all-overs to allocution but just wish to sit and listen, they will be animated to accept you there. Whatever your akin of action and way of getting in the world, at an Aspie accumulation you will be greeted sincerely. A lot of humans are actual friendly, although of advance it depends on the getting and group; and you will feel welcome. You will admit yourself in others. You will feel beneath alone.

The OASIS website maintains a abundant account of bounded abutment groups in all fifty states. A lot of these are for parents but there are some for adults with Asperger’s affection too.

Also, try application Google to acquisition bounded groups, or email a civic Asperger’s email accumulation to ask if anyone there knows of bounded groups (Examples are grasp.org groups, ASAN at autisticadvocacy.org, Autistic Daily active Yahoo group, etc.)

National Asperger’s Advocacy Groups

In accession to all the bounded groups, there are a few civic or bounded Asperger’s organizations that run abutment groups for adults with Asperger’s. These are all actual advantageous groups to apperceive about.

GRASP, or the Global and Bounded Autistic Self Advocacy Network, runs abutment groups for adults in several dif­ferent states but focuses on the New York City region. Their accepted account of abutment groups cover locations in California, Colorado, Iowa, Illinois, Michigan, New Mexico, Pennsylvania, Virginia, New York and more. There are several based in the New York City area.

ASAN, or the Autistic Self Advocacy Network, runs groups in several altered states as well. These are run by humans on the autism spectrum and are generally focused added on political issues (such as advocating for rights for humans on the spectrum, and how to plan to abate the amount of abrogating letters about humans with autism in the media, how to brainwash humans about autism spectrum disorders, etc.).

ASAN’s website talks added about the goals of the organization. It was started by two adolescent men in their 20s, both with Asperger’s. One was just starting college, one in alum school; both with a eyes to actualize an alignment for humans with autism spectrum disorders; An alignment run by humans who had the aforementioned ataxia in adjustment to actualize a affable abode of abutment and aswell to actualize an alignment that would action for the rights of humans on the spectrum.

A third alignment is the Asperger’s Association of New England, or AANE. They accommodate abutment groups in a lot of of the six New England states. They are based in Boston, and accept several groups in that area. They accept amusing ac­tivity groups, area associates go to assorted places calm (bowling, out to dinner, to see a lecture), as able-bodied as abutment groups and amusing abilities groups. A abounding advertisement of groups can be begin at aane.org.

A abundant website to acquisition abutment organizations and abutment groups which lists groups torn down by U.S. accompaniment is: aspergersyndrome.org

The advertisement of abutment organizations actuality is extensive. While these listings are not necessarily all aggressive for adults, with a little work, you can acceptable acquisition a abutment accumulation that will accommodated your needs.

How Else Can Adults with Asperger’s Acquisition Friends?

It’s advantageous to accommodated added adults with Asperger’s, but sometimes you just wish to be able to achieve accompany with the humans about you. How can you achieve that? How can you advance added friendships in your life?

Work on your amusing skills

One advantage is consistently to get counseling to advice plan on your amusing skills. A acceptable advisor can acquaint you area you’re traveling amiss and plan with you to advice change the anemic areas. They can analyze those areas in which you charge help, and archetypal able amusing skills. They can role archetypal with you what to do and say in amusing situations. By alive with a accomplished therapist, you can be added acquainted of the way you appear across, and accretion added accompany with your new, bigger skills.

Seek out humans you are accordant with!

But you still charge a abode to accommodated the appropriate people. All the amusing abilities in the apple aren’t traveling to advice you get forth with just anyone. Humans accept actual altered personalities, interests, and advice styles. You charge to accommodated humans who are accordant with you.

But how do I do that, you ask? Well, attending about you. Decide what you accept an absorption in. If you like to read, accompany a book club. In the action of discussing the Abundant Gatsby, you just ability blunder aloft a affiliated soul. Like to swim? Accompany a pond club. Abounding Aspies achieve accompany abundant bigger if they are DOING something with a getting instead of just talking to them. They charge something effective to do while getting with a person; that way the focus is on the action instead of the conversation.

If you like history and Apple War II, accompany a actual canning group. Maybe you can get complex in Civil War reenactments.

If you’re into sports at all, accompany a sports club; non-competitive sports are apparently added acceptable to activation friendships than competitive, but you never know. If you like to sing, accompany a choir. If you like to write, acquisition a autograph group. The account is endless. The important affair is to bout your abilities and interests to a accumulation of agreeing people. You ability still accept amusing accomplishment issues, but you’ll accept a accepted absorption with these humans and be abundant added acceptable to advance friendships. Just be accommodating and apperceive that developing friendships takes time; it doesn’t appear overnight. Go apathetic and try not to blitz things. Trying to blitz into things will put burden on the added getting and achieve them abundant added acceptable to end the beginning accord prematurely. It is harder to wait, yes, but account it in the end.

Eight Places to Acquisition Potential Friends

1. Intellectual absorption groups

Book clubs, political altercation groups, moral and ethical altercation groups such as Socrates Cafe, MENSA are all acceptable places to look.

2. Athletic Pursuits

Look into bounded groups for soccer, basketball, swimming, or any action that you accept an absorption in.

3. Artistic Activities

Arts and crafts, photography, painting, writing, and added artistic arts; humans accommodated to allotment work, altercate technique, or appoint in said art during accumulation time with others.

4. Religious Organizations

Churches and synagogues can be abundant places to accommodated others. Generally they authority their own altercation groups, choirs and activities.

5. University Groups

If you accept a academy or university abreast you, they may authority appropriate absorption groups that are accessible to the accessible that you could join.

6. Science and Technology

Do you like computers? Science fiction? Medicine? Acquisition agreeing humans in a accumulation committed to these topics.

7. Your Workplace

Sometimes you can acquisition agreeing humans in your workplace, or at atomic humans to go out to a baseball bold with. A lot of times this doesn’t happen, but it can occasionally.

8. Action Groups

People ability accommodated to play lath games, chess, Scrabble, go hiking, or do any address of action together.

While it may be difficult for an developed with autism or Asperger’s affection to calmly achieve friends, it is accessible with a little anticipation and energy.

Energy Explained Simply

Energy, it is fair to say, is a very vague concept. So where does one go to learn more? Does one have to take a physics course? I don’t think so, and to test my theory, I have tried to explain energy as briefly as I can, right here.Energy 101Energy is what makes the world go round. Literally. Every neuron that sparks in your brain, every electron that fires down a wire, every molecule burning in a fire, carries with it a sort of momentum that it passes on like a baton in a complex relay race. The batons are flooding in all directions all around us and across the universe – they are energy and we have learned how to harness them.The actual word “Energy” is a much abused term nowadays – because energy is used to represent such a disparate range of phenomena from heat to light to speed to weight, and because it seems to be able to change forms so readily, it is cannon fodder for pseudo-scientific and spiritual interpretation. However, you will be pleased to hear that it actually has a very clear (and consistent) nature.I like to think of energy being a bit like money – it is a sort of currency that can be traded. It takes on various forms (dollars/pounds/Swiss francs) and can be eventually cashed in to achieve something. However, just like money, once spent, it does not vanish. It simply moves on a new chapter in its life and may be reused indefinitely.To illustrate the point, let’s follow a ‘unit of energy’ through a visit to planet Earth to see what I mean. The [number] shows every time it changes currency (see the key below).The energy in our story starts off tied up in hydrogen atoms in the sun [1]. Suddenly, due to the immense pressure and heat, the nuclei of several atoms react to form a brand new helium atom, and a burst of radiation[2] is released. The radiation smashes into other nearby atoms heating them up so hot [4] that they glow, sending light [2] off into space. Several minutes pass in silence before the light bursts through the atmosphere and plunges down to the rainforest hitting a leaf. In the leaf the burst of power smashes a molecule of carbon dioxide and helps free the carbon to make food for the plant [3]. The plant may be eaten (giving food ‘Calories’), or may fall to the ground and settle and age for millions of years turning perhaps to coal. That coal may be dug up and burned to give heat [4] in a power station, boiling water to supply compressed steam [5] that may drive a turbine [6] which may be used to generate electricity [7] which we may then use in our homes to heat/light/move/cook or perhaps to recharge our mobile phone [3]. That energy will then be used to transmit microwaves when you make a call [2] which will mostly dissipate into the environment heating it (very) slightly [4]. Eventually the warmed earth radiates [2] this excess of heat off into the void where perhaps it will have another life…Energy currencies:[1] Matter is energy, according the Einstein, and the quantity relates to mass according to E=mc^2 (c is a constant equal to the speed of light).[2] Radiation (like sunlight) is a flow of energy, and energy content relates the frequency according to E=hf (h is the Planck constant).[3] Chemical energy – the most complex energy, a mixture of different tensions in nuclear and electromagnetic force fields.[4] Thermal (heat) energy- this is really just a sneaky form of kinetic energy [6 below] – small particles moving and vibrating fast are sensed by us as heat.[5] Compression (or tension) energy – while compressed air is again a sneaky form of kinetic energy[6], a compressed spring is different – it’s energy is more like chemical energy and is stored by creating tension in the force fields present in nature (gravity, electromagnetism and nuclear forces).

[6] Kinetic energy – is energy by virtue of movement (like a speeding bullet or unstoppable train)[7] Electrical energy – this energy, like a compressed spring, is stored as stress in force fields, in this case electromagnetic force-fields.This short story is testament to an enormous quantity of learning by our species, but there are some clear exclusions to be read into the story: Energy fields (auras) or the energy lines in the body that conduct the “chi” (or life force) of Asian medical tradition
Energy lines on the Earth (aka Ley lines)
Negative or positive energy (as in positive or negative “vibes”)These energy currencies relate to theories and beliefs that science has been unable to verify and thus they have no known “exchange rate”. Asking how many light bulbs can you power with your Chi is thus a nonsensical question, whereas it would not be for any scientifically supported form of energy. And since energy flows account for all actions in the universe, not being exchangeable would be rather limiting.Where exactly is Energy kept?This may sound like s strange question, we know Energy is kept in batteries, petrol tanks and chocolate chip cookies. But the question is, where exactly is it stored in those things?Energy is stored in several ways:as movement – any mass moving has energy by virtue of the movement, which is called Kinetic Energy
as matter – Einstein figured out that matter is just a form of energy, and the exchange rate is amazing – 1g = 90,000,000,000,000,000 joules (from E=mc^2)
as tension in force fieldsThat last one sounds a bit cryptic, but actually most of the energy we use is in this form – petrol, food, batteries and even a raised hammer all store energy in what are essentially compressed (or stretched springs).What is a force field? Why on earth did I have to bring that up?All of space (even the interstellar vacuum) is permeated by force fields. The one we all know best is gravity – we know that if we lift a weight, we have to exert effort and that effort is then stored in that weight and can be recovered later by dropping it on your foot.Gravity is only one of several force fields known to science. Magnetic fields are very similar – it takes energy to pull a magnet off the fridge, and so it is actually an energy store when kept away from the fridge.The next force field is that created by electric charge (the electric field). For many years this was though to be a field all on its own but a chap called James Clerk Maxwell realised that electric fields and magnetic fields are in some senses two sides of the same coin, so physicists now talk of ‘electromagnetic’ fields. It turns out that electric energy (such as that stored in a capacitor) consists of tensions in this field, much like a raised weight is a tension in a gravity field. Perhaps surprisingly, light (as well as radio waves, microwaves and x-rays) are also energy stored in fluctuations of an energy field.Much chemical energy is also stored in electric fields – for example, most atoms consist of positively charged nuclei and negatively charged electrons, and the further apart they are kept, the more energy they hold, just liked raised weights. As an electron is allowed to get closer to the nucleus, energy is released (generally as radiation, such as light – thus hot things glow).The least well known force field is the strong ‘nuclear’ force. This is the forces that holds the subatomic particles (protons) together in the nucleus of atoms. Since the protons are all positively charged, they should want to repel each other, but something is keeping them at bay, and so physicists have inferred this force field must exist. It turns out their theory holds water, because if you can drag these protons a little bit apart, they will suddenly fly off with gusto. The strong nuclear force turns out to be bloody strong, but only works over a tiny distance. It rarely affects us as we rarely store energy with this energy field.Now we understand force fields we can look at how molecules (petrol, oxygen, chocolate) store energy. All molecules are made of atoms connected to one other via various ‘bonds’ and these bonds are like springs. Different types of molecules have different amount of tension in these bonds – it turns out coal molecules, created millions of years ago with energy from the sun, are crammed full of tense bonds that are dying to re-arrange to more relaxed configurations, which is exactly what happens when we apply oxygen and the little heat to start the reaction.The complexity of the tensions in molecules are perhaps the most amazing in nature, as it is their re-arrangements that fuel life as we know it.What exactly is Heat then?You may have noticed that I did not include heat as a form of energy store above. But surely hot things are an energy store?Yes, they are, but heat is actually just a sort of illusion. We use heat as a catch all term to describe the kinetic energy of the molecules and atoms. If you have a bottle of air, the temperature of the air is a direct consequence of the average speed of the molecules of gas jetting around bashing into one another.As you heat the air, you are actually just increasing the speed of particles. If you compress the air, you may not increase their speed, but you will have more particles in the same volume, which also ‘feels’ hotter.Solids are a little different – the atoms and molecules in solids do not have the freedom to fly around, so instead, they vibrate. It is like each molecule is constrained by elastic bands pulling in all directions. If the molecule is still, it is cold, but if it is bouncing around like a pinball, then it has kinetic energy, and feels hotter.You can see from this viewpoint, that to talk of the temperature of an atom, or of a vacuum, is meaningless, because temperature is a macroscopic property of matter. On the other hand, you could technically argue that a flying bullet is red hot because it has so much kinetic energy…Is Energy Reusable?We as a species, have learned how to tap into flows of energy to get them to do our bidding. So big question: Will we use it all up?Scientists have found that energy is pretty much indestructible – it is never “used-up”, it merely flows from one form into another. The problem is thus not that we will run out, but that we might foolishly convert it all into some unusable form.Electricity is an example of really useful energy – we have machines that convert electricity into almost anything, whereas heat is only useful if you are cold, and light is only useful if you are in the dark.Engineers also talk about the quality (or grade) of energy. An engineer would always prefer 1 litre of water 70 degrees warmer than room temperature, than 70 litres of water 1 degree warmer, even though these contain roughly the same embodied energy. You can use the hot water to boil an egg, or make tea, or you could mix it with 69 litres of room temperature water to heat it all by 1 degree. It is more flexible.Unfortunately, most of the machines we use, turn good energy (electricity, petrol, light) into bad energy (usually “low grade heat”).Why is low grade heat so bad? It turns out we have no decent machine to convert low grade heat into other forms of energy. In fact we cannot technically convert any forms of heat into energy unless we have something cold to hand which we are also willing to warm up; our machines can thus only extract energy by using hot an cold things together. A steam engine relies just as much on the environment that cools and condenses water vapour as it does on the coal its belly. Power stations rely on their cooling towers as much as their furnaces. It turns out that all our heat machines are stuck in this trap.

So, in summary, heat itself is not useful – it is temperature differences that we know how to harness, and the bigger the better.This picture of energy lets us think differently about how we interact with energy. We have learned a few key facts:Energy is not destroyed, and cannot be totally used up – this should give us hope
Energy is harnessed to do our dirty work, but tends to end up stuck in some ‘hard to use’ formSo all we need to do to save ourselves is:Re-use the same energy over and over
by finding some way to extract energy from low grade heatAlas, this is a harder nut to crack than fission power, so I am not holding my breath. It turns out that there is another annoying universal law (the Second Law of Thermodynamics) that says that every time energy flows, it will somehow become less useful, like water running downhill. This is because energy can only flow one way: from something hot to something cold – thus once something hot and something cold meet and the temperature evens out, you have forever lost the useful energy you had.It is as if we had a mountain range and were using avalanches to drive our engines. Not only will our mountains get shorter over time but our valleys will fill up too, and soon we will live on a flat plane and our engines will be silent.The Big PictureSo the useful energy in the universe is being used up. Should we worry?Yes and no.Yes, you should worry because locally we are running out of easy sources of energy and will now have to start using sustainable ones. If we do not ramp up fast enough we will have catastrophic shortages.No, should should no worry that we will run out, because there are sustainable sources – the sun pumps out so much more than we use, it is virtually limitless.Oh, and yes again – because burning everything is messing up the chemistry of the atmosphere, which is also likely to cause catastrophe. Good news is that the solution to this is the same – most renewable energy sources do not have this unhappy side effect.Oh, and in the really long term, yes we should worry again. All the energy in the universe will eventually convert to heat, and the heat will probably spread evenly throughout the universe, and even though all the energy will still be present and accounted for, it would be impossible to use and the universe would basically stop. Pretty dismal, but this is what many physicists believe: we all exist in the eddy currents of heat flows as the universe gradually heads for a luke-warm, and dead, equilibrium.=============If you liked this article, you might like my series on efficient motoring.